Friday, March 27, 2009

Overflowing Toilets















'Is this photo not the cutest you have ever seen?'


A blog friend of mine that some of you might know, but she has chosen to remain 'anonymous', so we will call her 'Dublingirl'... She is awesome. Why? Well because she and I connected like many of us have, and I cherish loving souls, even if I have not met you in person or otherwise. We talk back and forth on our sites, and connected. Dublingirl is a photographer professionally. She takes photos of terminally ill children for their parents all over, raised and raises money for their families (like I want to do), and gives her support through friendship to these children and their families. What more can I say! I myself having lost a child do not meet to many people face to face that understand, or at least in DG's case have seen first hand what I went through, and continue to face the emotions each day. We spoke on the phone recently and she understood that all a parent needs is their hand held, a listening ear, and a heart felt hug now and then... I hope to post more of her fabulous photos here regularly...

Which leads to my next point... In my 'Love They Self' post I talk about acceptance when we look into the mirror, and how we miss the big picture of seeing what is around us. Of late (my favorite new phrase) my post are on again off again funny ha-ha, and then serious stuff like this. I have noticed I do not get many comments on the serious stuff. I believe it is because it is a hard to face the seriousness that lurks inside of us. That is why we have to get down to business...

Self-condemnation in any form is nothing but a cop-out, a comfortable place to be where we have no responsibility to our true selves, only to our physical images... Do you remember me saying this in that 'other' post?

NOTE: I have been reading a workbook with my friend Gen @ Gensbliggidyblog, and we just finished our last chapter and will move into a new phase of our empowerment exercises by meeting several times a week, walking (to encourage weight loss, and support each other), and discussing positive things that happen, and how to keep our valves open...a sort of 'Law of Attraction' and positive thinking exercise.

Before moving onto the 'Dump' part of this post there is someone else's blog I want to share with you... FrankandMary @ Rejected Truth tells stories about her life now and in the past. Her latest post, Architecture Of A Relationship mentions how a woman she wants to reconnect with leaves a voice message saying "No thank you, I have moved on..." after Rejected Truth's parent has passed away. Why? Who really knows, but it is a good read, and example of how we get 'Dumped' on. How someone cannot forgive what happens, forget it (well you know), and move on...




















In the last chapter we learned 'The Dump It' exercise...

Fill up the bowl with all that shit (my words), the tank, and the page with approval-seeking things you do that you're ready to flush down the toilet. They can be things you say to put yourself down, things you dislike about the way you act or think, ways you dress or speak, people-pleasing things you do.

I feel there is one more thing that should be added to this, and that is when someone is unhappy in their own life they overflow it through negative into someone else's life. Not a lecture people, but the fact is when someone is unhappy the simply take it out on others. This should be foremost in our minds consistently... Why? Because I have this 'happy wall' that I am leaning up against along my road of life right now, and when I feel like stopping, rubbing my back on it to get some good happy vibes from my day (like a bear needing a good tree back scratch visual), and then someone comes along and shits where I stand...well, that is not good for either of us.

Okay, maybe there is a little hint in there that I found a pile of someone else's poo in my path yesterday? Yes I did *smiling though*. In the next part of the workbook it talks about 'Judge the road you have traveled...' Judge yourself, not others. Not that I am big on that supposed rule book out there in the world that says 'Do not throw stones', but it makes sense. Love yourself. What does that mean? Think about it...put that big ole pile of shit you are carrying around into the CRAPPER man! Let it go. Get happy. When others are around us and we are not happy with who we have become, or what we do; then they run like hell eventually.

I am not here to preach. I hate preaching, but the informative and helpful stuff I have been reading about, and sharing with my dear friend and first NJ BFF, Gen...along with all my other new BFF's recently is working, and rubbing off. I am seeing changes. Acceptance. We have a mission in life, should have no regrets, and if we do not keep our path's free of debris (or eyes open) then we will miss out on what it is we are really meant to do before we leave this world. I know what mine is now, and it may change down the road, but for now my heart is so full of love for myself, friends (you included), strangers, and those kids out there that Dublingirl and I love and adore so dearly; it has changed our lives for the better.

FLUSH THAT FUCKING CRAPPER FOLKS!

PAST POST: I AM KNOWMAN- Not a man, but still part woman...I skip through life like a nomad...trying each and everything, checking off my 'things to do in life' list happily, and think we are all so wonderfully and inescapably the most beautiful creatures when combined or in touch with each side...along with many other things on the planet, and universe. I have found my voice in this life and do say 'No' when I want ...without fear of not being liked, and seek to gain as much knowledge as I can. I am a freed Knoman.

PS... Funny Shit is always hitting my fan as of late, so I will share more later...

5 comments:

K said...

I do love the shoe lace photo.

I think I've been working on flushing the crapper lately. I just didn't have the visual until now - thanks.

Debra said...

Love the pic! And what a GREAT post!

Hugs and loves!

FrankandMary said...

Dublingirl sounds like an angel. What a fantastic idea.......

I've done some self-condemnation, but I know what you are saying here is true. That is something I do work on NOT doing now. Excellent reminder of that.

Thanks for liking my post enough to link it :-)

Now I am off to a noon date at the food pantry. Peace~Mary

Kendra said...

Love this post...great photo!

BTW, my other blog is

http://screamsfrommyfrontporch.blogspot.com/

blueviolet said...

It's not that often that we find someone who shares our very deepest sorrows. I'm so glad that you have someone like that. :)

As for flushing the crapper, how do you get someone else to do it?